Two Things

First, in regards to an older post, I was wrong, I can not really understand why people of faith who are elected to represent all of the people in their district vote against equality. I guess I wanted to sound tolerant of organized religion. I don't know why, since I'm not. I never fault the individual but the church is so destructive. Hate the organization, not the individual. Hate the sin, not the sinner. Hm.

Secondly, I am really, really frustrated and disappointed in the New Jersey legislature. It is not looking good here in the Garden State (also, Garden State? How could that NOT be gay?!). Five republican Sentors (Keane, Kean, Ciesla, Bateman and Beck) came out against the bill, instead saying they could fix New jersey's Civil Unions Law, in effect saying the legislature didn't do it's job.

A few years ago, the New Jersey court system declared that restricting the benefits for "marriage" to heterosexual couples was unlawful. An institution identical to marriage was created, and the legislature was given the task of choosing either "civil union" or "marriage." They went with civil union.

The courts made it so that on paper, the two legal structures are identical so, in effect, they are claiming that there is a fundamental flaw in the New Jersey Marriage Laws. It's ridiculous. The only way to fix the law is to just call it marriage, but they can't get their heads out of their asses to see it that way.

I keep trying to remember that I am on the right side of history, the winning side, but it's hard to always look up when you keep getting slapped in the face.

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In the middle of a phone bank right now and I just spoke to someone who nearly made me cry. A woman in her late fifties was telling me this story of the best example why civil unions don't work. Her partner came down with an aggressive and rare form of cancer. Her employer fortunately offered health care benefits for civilly unioned partners, so she was able to get the treatment she needed. Unfortunately the treatment did not work. While at work, her partner collapsed while a the grocery store and was taken to the hospital. She arrived and tried to explain to the man behind the desk that they had a civil union. He would not let her back because she was not family. While she argued, presented papers and legal documents, her partner died.

Not having health care is a problem, but people can work themselves out of medical debt and these folks were fortunate where they were able to find an employer that recognized their union. Same-sex partners write up legal documents stating they have power of attorney over their partners. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But because this woman could not say that the person dying just down the hall was her wife, she died among strangers. There is no way to fix the civil unions law, there is no education campaign that can be waged to turn around the reality that this woman died alone and as a second class citizen while her partner argued and begged and pleaded just yards away.

Anyone who votes against the marriage equality bill out of religious belief, while wrong, can not be faulted. It is not their fault that they are not yet able to see past the idea that religious doctrine should not dictate civil laws. Trying to fix the civil union law will take so much more time, effort and resources than just saying yes to marriage. In Massachusetts, the divorce rate decreased after marriage equality arrived. In Vermont, they passed a civil union law and, finally, recently realized the law was insufficient.

Okay. Stepping down from the soap box and back to the phones.